Sex is one of those topics that some people can’t seem to discuss with a new partner. There are also a lot of popular misconceptions from various sources that lead people to make not so good choices in the bedroom. The first step is talking to your partner before you get intimately involved. If you are not comfortable having that conversation yet, here are some general sex facts. However, people are not psychic and some want sex a lot. Others want more but afraid to ask. Others don’t know anything about sex but want to learn and someone to really pleasure them daily. So, get a grip on your sexual needs, wants and what you really love !
Masturbation is a normal. It does not mean that your partner isn’t getting enough, nor does it mean there is something wrong with your sex life. A high majority of people masturbate for any number of reasons, from stress relief, to sleep better, and even relieve PMS symptoms. Also, using a vibrator while masturbating, or just masturbating, will not desensitize a woman for sex later. If anything, it could heighten her pleasure because her body could be more responsive and more easily aroused. So everyone, go and masturbate as much as you like.
Men aren’t always in the mood just like women. Whoever told you that if he says no you when you suggest sex then his up to something was very wrong. Just like women, men may turn down sex when they are not in the mood for various reasons like not feeling good, a bad day, and even tired. Let him relax, offer him a shoulder massage, and try again later. Just because he isn’t in the mood, doesn’t mean he doesn’t want you or something is wrong in the relationship.
There is no formula for how often you should have sex, so stop basing your sex life off those magazine quizzes. Five times a week, once a week, three times a month… whatever quantity that works for you and your partner is how often you should be getting it on. People have different sexual needs and that includes frequency. Some couples will opt for sex all the time and the more you find giving pleasure – the more you will get pleasure.
Changing it up in the bedroom can add a new spice, but it doesn’t mean you are lacking spice. Some couples like to experiment sexually while other a perfectly okay with always staying missionary. Discuss boundaries ahead of time so that no one will be uncomfortable. Remember that just because someone is asking to try something new, it doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with what you already do. If you’re worried that saying no will be an issue, try suggesting something else that you would enjoy instead.
Simultaneous orgasms are for erotica and romance novels. Yes it is possible to orgasm together and it can be amazing, but it is rather difficult to accomplish. It takes a lot of control from both individuals which can be difficult to control and time. Don’t consider it the goal every time you have sex, but consider it like winning on a scratch ticket or the lottery. Sex should be about pleasure not stress with who and whomever and wherever you like.