There are so many rules to online dating on top of the endless rules to dating while offline. Just typing the words ‘Online Dating’ into your search browser will keep you busy reading contradicting statements of online profile dos and don’ts that you’ll never want to see the word dating again. Now, if you’ve been on a dating website for more than a day, you already know the frustration of vague profiles that look great, but don’t seem to have any real personality besides using the word fun a few million times. Every day, you’ll get mainly generic responses that feel like you were contacted through a product of copy and paste. Then the real shocker is when you finally set a date and who showed up is definitely not who was marketed in the profile. Do you want to know the secret to online dating? Being honest and real.
When you make a dating profile, you are advertising yourself.
If you are searching for a friend, partner or any other person, then you will want someone who wants the real you. Hopefully the desired end result is to hangout, meetup, play/watch sports or anything else, you want to really-real. And, if you want this to last for a long time even more important to be real. e last time, because then you will have the rest of your life to be happy and in love with that someone you find. Sometimes it helps if you have friends help point out your great qualities that should be on your profile, because we sometimes see ourselves differently than others see us.
Don’t fib, not even a little.
I don’t know many people who like to start a brand new relationship that is founded on numerous white lies. Saying that you love a popular hobby, like hiking, on your profile so it stands out is great if you like hiking; however, if you hate being outdoors and you begin dating someone who loves hiking as much as your profile persona, eventually they are going to catch on that you lied. After you have excused your way out of the sixth hiking date offer, they will probably call it quits.
Honesty doesn’t mean imperfection.
There are many ways to view the same thing. If you are a ‘stay in’ kind of person and don’t really like the social scene, then say it. “I’m not the kind of girl that likes to hang out at clubs and parties, but if you appreciate great home cooked food, Netflix, and cuddling in front of the fireplace, then I’m your kind of girl.” That sentence makes staying in sound like a fabulous time instead of – “I hate clubs and prefer to stay in on Friday nights.” That just sounds surly and like a bad time. There are ways to make any personality type or hobby sound fun for the right kind of person.
Pictures and hobbies can make or break a profile.
If you have a unique hobby like competing in archery, or are able to line dance for hours, talk about it! There is a good chance that someone will contact you because they do the same thing or are interested in your hobby. This is not the time to conform to social expectations. A picture is worth a thousand words and while we shouldn’t, people do judge a book by its cover. Take time to find the best pictures for your dating profile. If you are not satisfied with any photos you already have, take some new ones with the help of a friend or two.